The Unfiltered Mind

Life doesn’t always come in neat, social media worthy moments. Some seasons feel like sunlight and open skies; while others feel messy, heavy, and full of unanswered questions. The real challenge and real growth comes from learning to love yourself through ALL of it.

When things are going well, it’s easy to feel excited and proud of yourself. But even with this, self-love matters. It can come as a celebration, but don’t tie your worth to your achievements. Remember, you are not loveable because of what you’ve accomplished; you’re loveable because you EXIST.

Self-love is not just bubble baths and affirmations; it’s staying by your own side when life gets hard. It’s choosing to speak to yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a close friend. Ask yourself: What do I need right now to feel safe, grounded, loved and cared for? Then, give yourself permission to take that step, even if it’s small.

Life can be black and white, but most of life can happen in the gray areas, not in triumph or crisis, but in the ordinary days. Loving yourself through it is not a one-time decision. It’s a daily practice. It’s holding space for your messy edges, celebrating your wins, and giving yourself grace when you’re still figuring things out. You are worthy through it all.

I know that I wrote a blog on Men’s Mental Health and how big I am on them not being seen or heard enough. Them always having to act tough and not being able to be vulnerable to their significant other. BUT please don’t think that I don’t care about how women are feeling or what they’re going through. Us women carry a big mental load as well.

From an early age, women are taught to nurture, to smile through pain, and to “push through” discomfort. These social norms can keep women from acknowledging when they’re struggling or reaching out for help, mainly out of fear of being labeled “too emotional,” “weak,” or “unstable.”

In a world filled with competition, that praises resilience and rewards overachievement, many women are quietly drowning under the weight of expectations. From juggling careers and caregiving to relationships and self-image – often with little acknowledgment of the emotional and mental toll it can have on them. What’s frequently overlooked is the cost: burnout, anxiety, depression and unspoken emotional exhaustion.

“Feeling burned out doesn’t mean you’re weak-it means you’ve been strong for too long without support.”

Taking care of your Mental Health isn’t selfish, it’s essential! If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. You deserve support, rest, and the freedom to prioritize yourself.

She Deserves Peace. We all deserve Peace. We don’t know what someone is going through at all, we need to be kind! Be kind to yourself and give yourself some Grace. We all deserve it!

Women aren’t the only ones that go through heartache, trauma, mental, physical, verbal and emotional abuse. Men’s mental health isn’t seen or recognized or heard enough in society today or at all. They are looked at as supposed to be being the tough/strong ones and have pride, to where they’re too scared to show their vulnerable side. A woman’s word can be so powerful that she uses a man’s vulnerability to degrade or emasculate him. We need to be a safe space for our man and he should know that he can come to us for anything. The level of pain and betrayal that can come from manipulation or degrading a man is exactly why Men don’t want to be vulnerable with us. It is so hard for a man to have a good woman after he’s had a bad one. He shouldn’t have to be scared of getting hurt again and that’s the main issue. Men should be able to be vulnerable with their partner and show that emotion without being degraded or belittled for how they feel.

Research shows that men need social support in order to achieve optimal health, despite the cultural stereotype of tolerant, self-sufficient males. Although men may think that being stoic keeps them strong, and some may feel that showing extreme masculinity is ideal, the truth is that men need support. A life of isolation is truly toxic.

We talk about how a man should treat a woman. How about we talk about how a Woman should treat a man. Be his peace, his biggest supporter, best friend and confidant. Respect him!! Most of all… Let him know physically and emotionally how much he means to you.

Men struggle too. Men cry. Men break down. Men get anxiety. Men feel insecure. Men get abused. Men have emotions. Men have mental illnesses. It’s not “unmanly” to struggle. Lets support men and lets encourage them.

“A man can be going through a storm inside himself, but the nurturing &feminine energy of a real woman can wither the storm within any man! (The Power of “Femininity”). -King D (@mrhealyourself)

In today’s fast-paced world, mental health often gets pushed to the side. We’re expected to hustle, perform, produce-and somehow stay balanced through it all. But the truth is, mental health isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity!

Mental health is just as important as physical health. It influences how we feel, act, and think. It affects how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Ignoring our mental health can lead to burnout, anxiety, depression, and a sense of disconnection from ourselves and those around us.

One of the biggest obstacles to getting help is the unfair assumptions. Many people still believe they need to “tough it out” or “get over it.” But seeking help/support isn’t weakness-it’s strength. Talking to a therapist, a trusted friend/family member, or even just admitting we’re not okay is a brave and powerful step.

Whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone. Many people are silently struggling behind fake smiles and filtered posts. I want you to know that I see you, I hear you and I am here for you! Reaching out-whether to connect, vent, or ask for help-can make all the difference. Let’s break the silence and talk about it!

You matter. Your feelings are valid. And it’s okay to slow down and take care of your mental well-being.